Quirky Valentine's Day Ideas - 10 Ways to Make Valentine's Day Sexier

Valentine’s Day is first and foremost about romance. If you have a significant other, you should plan a fun, intimate outing, whether it's a romantic dinner for two or a fun couples activity, and we allow you to go completely cliche and show up with chocolates and/or flowers. But what if you also want to add a little kink factor to your celebrations?

After all, romance and sexual tension often go hand in hand, so why not use Valentine's Day as a springboard to enjoy new bedroom activities or as an opportunity to explore each other's fantasies?

Whether you're starting the day with a new toy, game, or other gift that can be used in the bedroom, it's all about sharing the love and keeping the playfulness going. Valentine's Day offers the opportunity to do things that will take your relationship to a whole new level. With this handy guide, you'll have 10 different ideas to choose from.

Top 10 Ways to Bring the Kink on Valentine's Day

1. Try Bondage

Bondage is a great way to connect with your partner (even if they're tied up). "If you're not good at rope play, invest in a bed restraint or strap-on," advises Antonia Hall, psychologist, relationship expert, sex expert, and award-winning author of "The Ultimate Guide to Living with Multiple Orgasms." "Be sure to communicate, have safe words, and pay attention to your partner before playing with your partner to ensure their safety."

2. Stay Flexible

The best sex position is with the dominant partner on top. If you want to be more aggressive, take the initiative.

"Manage the pace between slow and fast to keep your partner craving more," says Hall. "Lie on top of your partner in missionary to remind them who's boss, or grab them from behind, which is a great position for some spanking and clitoral play."

3. Feel The Heat

Pick up some massage candles made from soy wax. Because their melting temperature is lower than traditional candles, they maintain an intense glow in even the darkest bedrooms. Plus, a longer-lasting flame allows you to use candle wax for more sexy purposes.

"You can more safely do the wacky 'pour hot wax on your butt' thing and then, voila - it turns into warm massage oil! The sensual and sexual exploration will likely continue," by Good Vibrations says sexologist Dr. Carol Queen.

4. Try New Toys

Who says you can’t treat yourself to something on Valentine’s Day? Spice up your sex life with a new shiny toy that meets all your needs. While you can give it to your partner to use for you, there's certainly nothing wrong with playing it yourself.

5. Watch Yourself Play

We live in the golden age of amateur photography, with HD cameras and video recorders in everyone's pockets, so why not keep high-performance lenses in your bedroom? Of course, you can delete the video immediately, but we recommend that you at least watch it first. Who knows, this might inspire a second round.

6. Write A Sexy Love Letter To Your Partner

You may not be a Shakespearean poet, but that doesn't mean you can't harness the power of language to great effect. If you've sexted before, you probably know what your partner likes when it comes to sexual language.

Take your sexting to the next level with a complete love letter—preferably handwritten, but at least printed and sealed in a nice envelope. Use your letter to describe something your partner would find sexy—whether it's a promise of future sex, memories of past hookups together, or a combination of the two.

7. Take Some Professional Naughty Photos

While your iPhone may come with a great camera, it's best to let a master handle the camera.

"Boudoir photos are a triple threat gift!" says author, speaker, and dating coach Laurel House.

"It's amazing foreplay - pose and feel sexy in sexy lingerie, it's a chance to push the limits and live out your Fifty Shades of Gray fantasies in your naughtiest lingerie, you can keep the photos And relive the fantasy again and again!”

8. Embrace Good-ass Play

Over the past five years, people have finally realized that playing with butts is fun. No matter your gender, playing behind with your fingers, tongue, or a toy is just another way to increase the pleasure factor with your partner.

9. Find A Hotel Room For The Night

Of course, it depends on your budget—a motel room or a cramped Airbnb might not bring the same sexy vibe—but if you can afford a nice hotel room, it can be a pretty sexy option.

Spending the night somewhere else can give things a vacation sex feel without the hassle of actually going on vacation, and it can allow for some sexy role play (pretend you're meeting up for a tryst) or just the satisfaction of knowing you don't have to wash the sheets or make the bed. Order some nice wine via room service (or BYOB), put on some sensual music, and you’re good to go.

10. Warm-up

We all know the power of lube, but heated lube is even better. You can’t go wrong with adding an extra touch of heat to foreplay, penetration, or any other unclothed interaction you might have.

It’s important to remember the most important rule this holiday season: there are no rules. Just have fun - and be a little weird while having fun.